Tuesday, February 19, 2008

Getting Him to Talk/Black History on Black Jacks (Pirates)

Getting Him to Talk/Black History on Black Jacks (Pirates)
Friday, February 22
12 - 1 p.m. (PST)
A Live & Online Broadcast

For Beyond 50's talks on "Dating & Marriage," we'll have Martin O'Connor calling in from New Zealand. He will explain a new way to get men talking about stuff that matters, based on a book he co-wrote called "Everything That He Hasn't Told You Yet." And in celebration of Black History Month, we'll have local historian Ron Weber discussing about the little known Black Jacks (Pirates) of the Caribbean and other seas.*

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*Subject to change. To join in the conversation during the live broadcast, call (724) 444-7444. When asked for the Talk Shoe ID, dial 59781#, and for the last code, press 1#. If you happen to miss any of the interviews, it is available through our archives.

How to Get Your Man to Talk

Beyond 50 found the following scenario presented by Martin O'Connor from his book "Everything He Hasn't Told You Yet" very revealing. It's entitled "Two Frogs" about how to tell about your man's attitudes toward relationships. Prepare to be surprised.

Ask HimThis: "What do you see when you look at animals? I'm going to ask you to give names to some animals, and I want you to answer as quickly as possible."
  • There are two frogs on a lily pad. Their names are...
  • There are two pigs in a pen. Their names are...
  • There are two dolphins in the sea. Their names are...
  • There are two eagles in the sky. Their names are...
  • There are two beetles on a leaf. Their names are...
  • There are two penguins on the ice. Their names are...

What Did He Tell You?

Co-authors Martin O'Connor and Burton Silver found that a man's answers to these questions are a fair guide to whether he wants to be in a relationship or not.* If he gives a male and a female name to each pair of animals, then he sees a world of couples and will feel most comfortable conforming to that. If on the other hand, he gives a male name to each animal, it indicated he's more likely to be into spending time with buddies. (Although some people have asked them whether it's a sign that he's gay!) If he gives a female names to each animal, then it suggests that he doesn't feel a part of the female world. He may feel alienated from women and see them as dominant.

*There is evidence to suggest that people attribute male or female qualities to certain animals. If this is the case with your man, then the results could well be inconclusive.

For more scenarios and about the book, go to www.everythinghehasnttoldyouyet.com.

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